Some relationships need marriage counseling, and I am not qualified to provide marriage counseling.
I don’t offer sexual abstinence counseling, except in the case of someone who is very serious about abstinence, but that person has to come to me. In terms of sexual activity, I don’t offer any.
I offer non-monogamous relationships, and I have had many clients from that and from other kinds of relationships where people have taken a non-monogamous approach, where people don’t have sex with all their partners.
Do you understand how many people feel ashamed about being monogamous?
I have many clients who come to me who are worried about their parents or their siblings, who are worried about their families, they worry about their spouses, they worry about their children, and they want to be in a relationship where they don’t have to worry about anyone else.
A lot of people feel very lonely and isolated, and they feel very alone and like they’re the only one. I really see the need to create communities where people can feel like they have others in their community and others who care about them.
For a long time, I felt that there was an emphasis on heterosexual intimacy as the primary way to get people into this relationship, and that there wasn’t a lot of emphasis on creating a community of people who want to pursue a polyamorous lifestyle. We’ve been able to build a community, but it’s just been small. People are very, very passionate and really want to get it out there, but I want to do it in a big way.
How do you see your life developing over the next few years? I see myself having a child, and at some point, we’ll have a much bigger network than we have now.
What is it like living with your wife in a monogamous relationship?
That’s not something that I’ve really been thinking about. I want to have kids, but I also have a very active social life. That is something that is going to be a part of my life in the future. There is still a lot of potential for growth. Are you going to give it another shot with other guys in the future?
Yes, that’s definitely a possibility. What’s next? I’ve been pretty busy with all of the other things that are going on in my life, but if I find the right person, I’ll definitely make another trip out here. Is it a matter of whether or not you want to get back into the scene?
Absolutely. I think it’s something that you have to be in. It’s really a lifestyle. There are going to be guys that you meet that are really going to be interested. There are going to be guys that will say, “Yeah, he is kind of an old-school type of guy.” I know it sounds corny, but it’s the truth.
There are going to be guys that are open to whatever you are in the scene and then there’s going to be some that will be a bit more selective. I guess that’s a good way to put it. So that is all I can say right now about it. We’ll see how it goes. The first one was pretty dope. The second one was probably my favorite. And the third one is right in my backyard.